Mary Mcilroy Counselling

Anxiety Issues

What exactly is anxiety? a normal response to stress, helping prepare us for danger? Yielding insights when stressed? Maybe we benefit from it rippling below the surface
Or is it an illness? A problem for fussy so & so’s which fades if unattended? We have all suffered bouts of anxiety at some stage, maybe mild bouts: oh-ooh did I water my plants, oh no, have I put-on a kilo? or sometimes overwhelming bouts, “I’m being tagged, my progress is faltering, ice-caps are melting” it can slide from subtle unnoticeable stress to physical excessive illness, making you panic, your hair fall out, your hands tremble (So overwhelmed we’re unable to focus, doubt ourself, stay living in shadows avoid work, become ill, avoid get-togethers, avoid social situations that trigger the symptoms) Which group are you in? Not even notice reticent stress or feeling overwhelmed? How about managing in the middle? With help you can manage over-whelming feelings. Don’t wait till it gets that bad.
Mary Mcilroy Counselling provides face to face counselling sessions in London & Online counselling sessions. Call Mary directly on 07769 218 281 or email mcilroy.mary@gmail.com

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Considering therapy?

The majority of us build a set of coping mechanisms throughout our lives that can help us to face life’s challenges as they arise. Common coping methods include meditation, reaching out to some self-help literature or taking up a regular fitness regime. We also each have friends and family on whom we can count for love and support. Yet, with all these good intentions, it is difficult for friends to be unbiased or to tell us things they fear may hurt us. Nor are they able to understand all that they see and hear in us.

Psychotherapy is often referred to as 'talking treatment' as it is usually based on creating a regular time and space for an individual to talk about his problems, explore difficult feelings and work towards solutions with a trained professional. Other forms of counselling may include a variety of communication methods, such as writing, music or artwork.
If you are considering therapy, but are perhaps a little sceptical and thinking along the lines of ‘what can they tell me that I haven’t already thought of myself’? Or perhaps perceiving seeing a therapist as a cure for self-obsessed celebrities or others with too much time or money on their hands, take a minute to look at the following, proven benefits that therapy can bring to anyone’s life.

Bear in mind that while psychotherapy is often not a quick fix the gains here are deep and long lasting:

Research in the field has shown that verbalizing feelings and getting one’s worries out into the open has a significant therapeutic effect on the brain.
Psycotherapists have the ability to listen in a very different way to other people, and therefore is capable of hearing what others do not, even the speaker himself…This means that a therapist can recognize shame where others hear aggression, fear where others hear anger. This invaluable ability can allow the speaker to get a completely new perspective, a different way of hearing and recognising his or hers feelings and emotions.
Therapy can also help one understand others, and this enhanced understanding has a positive influence on relationships with family, friends and co-workers.
Exploring one’s past and individual circumstances in a confidential set up helps people to feel less on their own and identify choices for change. This ongoing support, throughout the highly challenging path of change, helps a person to reach a state where he or she is better equipped to cope with the future.

Panic Attacks

Who out there has been assaulted by an invisible mob of nerves? Who’s changed from a rational, collected dozing being to a breathless, heart-pounding, mind-racing alter ego? Up to 1 in 10 men suffered at least once and slightly more females have a higher score. Amazingly these very real assaults strike out of the blue. Leaving the fear “oh-ohh, will it happen again. It may feel like an epileptic seizure, dissociation, even a stroke, do you call an ambulance, count 3, 3, 3, or 4,4,4? Curl up on the floor, will I have more something new, out of the blue, what does it mean when it happens to you? Remember: You might fear the worst but you never die from fear so welcome the panic, it will always pass. Let it come and let it go. The simplest cure is to breathe, it works. Breathe in deeply relax, breathe out slowly, soften. Repeat The only thing to touch you is gravity, feel it, welcome it.
Mary Mcilroy Counselling provides face to face counselling sessions in London & Online counselling sessions. Call Mary directly on 07769 218 281 or email mcilroy.mary@gmail.com

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Considering therapy?

The majority of us build a set of coping mechanisms throughout our lives that can help us to face life’s challenges as they arise. Common coping methods include meditation, reaching out to some self-help literature or taking up a regular fitness regime. We also each have friends and family on whom we can count for love and support. Yet, with all these good intentions, it is difficult for friends to be unbiased or to tell us things they fear may hurt us. Nor are they able to understand all that they see and hear in us.

Psychotherapy is often referred to as 'talking treatment' as it is usually based on creating a regular time and space for an individual to talk about their problems, explore difficult feelings and work towards solutions with a trained professional. Other forms of counselling may include a variety of communication methods, such as writing, music or artwork.
If you are considering therapy, but are perhaps a little sceptical and thinking along the lines of ‘what can they tell me that I haven’t already thought of myself’? Or perhaps perceiving seeing a therapist as a cure for self-obsessed celebrities or others with too much time or money on their hands, take a minute to look at the following, proven benefits that therapy can bring to anyone’s life.

Bear in mind that while psychotherapy is often not a quick fix the gains here are deep and long lasting:

Research in the field has shown that verbalizing feelings and getting one’s worries out into the open has a significant therapeutic effect on the brain.
Psychotherapists have the ability to listen in a very different way to other people - Therefore counsellors are capable of hearing what others do not hear, even the speaker themselves. This means that a therapist can recognize shame where others hear aggression, fear where others hear anger. This invaluable ability can allow the speaker to get a completely new perspective, a different way of hearing and recognize his or her own feelings and emotions.
Therapy can also help one understand others, and this enhanced understanding has a positive influence on relationships with family, friends and co-workers.
Exploring one’s past and individual circumstances in a confidential set up helps people to feel less on their own and identify choices for change. This ongoing support, throughout the highly challenging path of change, helps a person to reach a state where he or she is better equipped to cope with the future.

Grief and Bereavement

Grief can impact on your life in many ways. One loss can lead to another and another, paradoxically like a ripple, draining you, emotionally, physically, mentally. In reality physical loss can have physical impacts: sleeplessness, loss of appetite & energy, susceptibility to whatever bug’s going anxiety, shortness of breath, non stop crying. Loss can be variable, loss of a precious item, a career, the death of a loved one. But does the variety of impact differ? The stages of recovery all pain, the depth of pain unmeasurable the duration of recovery unpredictable.

Stages of Bereavement are:

Shock and denial, a state of disbelief, numb or no feelings.
Pain, guilt “I should have visited, said goodbye”
Anger and bargaining, possibly your relationships feel it too
Depression, life’s pleasures disappear for an unknown of time & Finally
the upward turn, know that acceptance doesn’t mean disrespect, it means: Looking ahead, new goals, hope, think of a future.

So what can counselling do, does talking make a difference? Incredibly, letting emotions out can help. Our muscles hold feelings in hence our half conscious belief: ‘Don’t say that, walk away, tell a joke as a distraction, No-one must see me cry, I’m not a baby, I’m a tough guy. So before you explode from emotional overload know that counselling does release stress and helps emotional process, It’s an essential part of emotional intelligence, your relationships will notice.
Mary Mcilroy Counselling provides face to face counselling sessions in London & Online counselling sessions. Call Mary directly on 07769 218 281 or email mcilroy.mary@gmail.com

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Considering therapy?

The majority of us build a set of coping mechanisms throughout our lives that can help us to face life’s challenges as they arise. Common coping methods include meditation, reaching out to some self-help literature or taking up a regular fitness regime. We also each have friends and family on whom we can count for love and support. Yet, with all these good intentions, it is difficult for friends to be unbiased or to tell us things they fear may hurt us. Nor are they able to understand all that they see and hear in us.

Psychotherapy is often referred to as 'talking treatment' as it is usually based on creating a regular time and space for an individual to talk about their problems, explore difficult feelings and work towards solutions with a trained professional. Other forms of counselling may include a variety of communication methods, such as writing, music or artwork.
If you are considering therapy, but are perhaps a little sceptical and thinking along the lines of ‘what can they tell me that I haven’t already thought of myself’? Or perhaps perceiving seeing a therapist as a cure for self-obsessed celebrities or others with too much time or money on their hands, take a minute to look at the following, proven benefits that therapy can bring to anyone’s life.

Bear in mind that while psychotherapy is often not a quick fix the gains here are deep and long lasting:

Research in the field has shown that verbalizing feelings and getting one’s worries out into the open has a significant therapeutic effect on the brain.
Psychotherapists have the ability to listen in a very different way to other people - Therefore counsellors are capable of hearing what others do not hear, even the speaker themselves. This means that a therapist can recognize shame where others hear aggression, fear where others hear anger. This invaluable ability can allow the speaker to get a completely new perspective, a different way of hearing and recognize his or her own feelings and emotions.
Therapy can also help one understand others, and this enhanced understanding has a positive influence on relationships with family, friends and co-workers.
Exploring one’s past and individual circumstances in a confidential set up helps people to feel less on their own and identify choices for change. This ongoing support, throughout the highly challenging path of change, helps a person to reach a state where he or she is better equipped to cope with the future.

Couples Relationships

We long for love, for our heart and our head it’s essential for survival, the stuff of dreams yet the core of nightmares. Relationships can be a recurrent disaster, an ongoing mistake, the same error we unconsciously make. Never recognising the negative belief we hold on to and repeat. If we’re lucky we’ve found Mr \ Mrs Perfect, or are you unsure toying with the question “is he for me, will it happen again? will he break all my rules, rip my heart wide open? do I dare set boundaries, have the courage to say I don’t want a cheat, I do want TLC. In a perfect world, relationships would be 50 / 50 equal giving, equal getting, equal debating and understanding.
Mary Mcilroy Counselling provides face to face relationship counselling sessions in London & Online counselling sessions. Call Mary directly on 07769 218 281 or email mcilroy.mary@gmail.com

Considering therapy?

The majority of us build a set of coping mechanisms throughout our lives that can help us to face life’s challenges as they arise. Common coping methods include meditation, reaching out to some self-help literature or taking up a regular fitness regime. We also each have friends and family on whom we can count for love and support. Yet, with all these good intentions, it is difficult for friends to be unbiased or to tell us things they fear may hurt us. Nor are they able to understand all that they see and hear in us.

Psychotherapy is often referred to as 'talking treatment' as it is usually based on creating a regular time and space for an individual to talk about their problems, explore difficult feelings and work towards solutions with a trained professional. Other forms of counselling may include a variety of communication methods, such as writing, music or artwork.
If you are considering therapy, but are perhaps a little sceptical and thinking along the lines of ‘what can they tell me that I haven’t already thought of myself’? Or perhaps perceiving seeing a therapist as a cure for self-obsessed celebrities or others with too much time or money on their hands, take a minute to look at the following, proven benefits that therapy can bring to anyone’s life.

Bear in mind that while psychotherapy is often not a quick fix the gains here are deep and long lasting:

Research in the field has shown that verbalizing feelings and getting one’s worries out into the open has a significant therapeutic effect on the brain.
Psychotherapists have the ability to listen in a very different way to other people - Therefore counsellors are capable of hearing what others do not hear, even the speaker themselves. This means that a therapist can recognize shame where others hear aggression, fear where others hear anger. This invaluable ability can allow the speaker to get a completely new perspective, a different way of hearing and recognize his or her own feelings and emotions.
Therapy can also help one understand others, and this enhanced understanding has a positive influence on relationships with family, friends and co-workers.
Exploring one’s past and individual circumstances in a confidential set up helps people to feel less on their own and identify choices for change. This ongoing support, throughout the highly challenging path of change, helps a person to reach a state where he or she is better equipped to cope with the future.

Life Coaching

Who needs it? Does life ever seem uncertain, the future scary, career path unknown, relationships indecisive? Time can seem to disappear as days slip past and unfinished business does not get finished, generating anxiety and possibly sliding into depression. What’s missing? A sense of control is needed in an out-of-control, uncertain existence. My aim is to help you regain clarity, build a goal with a plan and develop a confident approach. Clients come with difficulties in many areas, from professional and personal issues to negative self-beliefs and a poor self-image. Possibly you could never imagine how your life would be, no matter your level of imagery I will help you confront the blocks and address the barriers. I want to help you build a better future. Regardless of what’s getting in the way of how you imagined your life or who is causing the conflict and problems, I want to help you confront the invisible barriers and take the next bold step.
Mary Mcilroy Counselling provides face to face counselling sessions in London & Online counselling sessions. Call Mary directly on 07769 218 281 or email mcilroy.mary@gmail.com

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Considering therapy?

The majority of us build a set of coping mechanisms throughout our lives that can help us to face life’s challenges as they arise. Common coping methods include meditation, reaching out to some self-help literature or taking up a regular fitness regime. We also each have friends and family on whom we can count for love and support. Yet, with all these good intentions, it is difficult for friends to be unbiased or to tell us things they fear may hurt us. Nor are they able to understand all that they see and hear in us.

Psychotherapy is often referred to as 'talking treatment' as it is usually based on creating a regular time and space for an individual to talk about their problems, explore difficult feelings and work towards solutions with a trained professional. Other forms of counselling may include a variety of communication methods, such as writing, music or artwork.
If you are considering therapy, but are perhaps a little sceptical and thinking along the lines of ‘what can they tell me that I haven’t already thought of myself’? Or perhaps perceiving seeing a therapist as a cure for self-obsessed celebrities or others with too much time or money on their hands, take a minute to look at the following, proven benefits that therapy can bring to anyone’s life.

Bear in mind that while psychotherapy is often not a quick fix the gains here are deep and long lasting:

Research in the field has shown that verbalizing feelings and getting one’s worries out into the open has a significant therapeutic effect on the brain.
Psychotherapists have the ability to listen in a very different way to other people - Therefore counsellors are capable of hearing what others do not hear, even the speaker themselves. This means that a therapist can recognize shame where others hear aggression, fear where others hear anger. This invaluable ability can allow the speaker to get a completely new perspective, a different way of hearing and recognize his or her own feelings and emotions.
Therapy can also help one understand others, and this enhanced understanding has a positive influence on relationships with family, friends and co-workers.
Exploring one’s past and individual circumstances in a confidential set up helps people to feel less on their own and identify choices for change. This ongoing support, throughout the highly challenging path of change, helps a person to reach a state where he or she is better equipped to cope with the future.

Depression

After the epic amount of isolation and illness thanks to Covid , the amount of depression today has certainly increased. Stop, what is the impact on you? Boredom, staying home with extra time yet lacking interest in socialising. Lack of movement, lots of closures followed by new aches and pains. Work on a laptop, hours increased, pleasure reduced, loss of hobbies. Look at your relationship, lots more company so why less intimacy? All new issues, intangible, invisible yet psychologically troubling. What is your negative inner voice telling yourself? It’s just me, being typically dumb, I don’t have the intelligence or if I wait long enough, things will change, or depression is too embarrassing to talk about, don’t admit to feeling low. Talking about things doesn’t make them worse and while you wait for problems to disappear life is passing, the clock is ticking. If untreated, depression can take its toll, if help is sought the mind, soul and body can be guided to a healthier place. Regardless of dilemma, emotion or negative conviction, I’m here to help.
Mary Mcilroy Counselling provides face to face counselling sessions in London & Online counselling sessions. Call Mary directly on 07769 218 281 or email mcilroy.mary@gmail.com

Stress

Have you felt life is rushing past too fast. You rush to keep up, get organised, get ahead of the game, find time to enjoy yet before you get time to ‘relax’ you find you’re overwhelmed and need to rest? Stress is a factor we’re often not aware of, we live with the panic, nervousness and worry of life, after all, “everyone has to cope, we all do” Is it really possible to spot the signs of stress before it manifests as: health issues, irritability, loss of motivation, even panic attacks? There are ways to slow down, soothe the mind, find how to have fun and undo the issues arising. I’m here to help you spot your own best answers and actually put them into practice. Some tips for coping with stress are:

Using imagery, visualise a calm scene
Use calm & simple breathing techniques
The Body Scan, relax muscles one by one
Mindfulness, remember go slow to go fast applies to everything in life. But if we do each thing calmly and carefully we will get it done quicker and with much less stress.

Mary Mcilroy Counselling provides face to face counselling sessions in London & Online counselling sessions. Call Mary directly on 07769 218 281 or email mcilroy.mary@gmail.com

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Considering therapy?

The majority of us build a set of coping mechanisms throughout our lives that can help us to face life’s challenges as they arise. Common coping methods include meditation, reaching out to some self-help literature or taking up a regular fitness regime. We also each have friends and family on whom we can count for love and support. Yet, with all these good intentions, it is difficult for friends to be unbiased or to tell us things they fear may hurt us. Nor are they able to understand all that they see and hear in us.

Psychotherapy is often referred to as 'talking treatment' as it is usually based on creating a regular time and space for an individual to talk about their problems, explore difficult feelings and work towards solutions with a trained professional. Other forms of counselling may include a variety of communication methods, such as writing, music or artwork.
If you are considering therapy, but are perhaps a little sceptical and thinking along the lines of ‘what can they tell me that I haven’t already thought of myself’? Or perhaps perceiving seeing a therapist as a cure for self-obsessed celebrities or others with too much time or money on their hands, take a minute to look at the following, proven benefits that therapy can bring to anyone’s life.

Bear in mind that while psychotherapy is often not a quick fix the gains here are deep and long lasting:

Research in the field has shown that verbalizing feelings and getting one’s worries out into the open has a significant therapeutic effect on the brain.
Psychotherapists have the ability to listen in a very different way to other people - Therefore counsellors are capable of hearing what others do not hear, even the speaker themselves. This means that a therapist can recognize shame where others hear aggression, fear where others hear anger. This invaluable ability can allow the speaker to get a completely new perspective, a different way of hearing and recognize his or her own feelings and emotions.
Therapy can also help one understand others, and this enhanced understanding has a positive influence on relationships with family, friends and co-workers.
Exploring one’s past and individual circumstances in a confidential set up helps people to feel less on their own and identify choices for change. This ongoing support, throughout the highly challenging path of change, helps a person to reach a state where he or she is better equipped to cope with the future.

Confidence is key

How come many people out there feel one meter tall? Myself included. What I feel about me keeps me small. Inside I cringe and feel I am still 4 or 5. A real case of Imposter’s Syndrome. I have micro-confidence, how did I get qualified? Amazingly no-one else makes negative comments, it is only me who criticizses me. Father said when I was 5, “you are stupid”. His ‘joke’ still rings in my head, decades later and despite numerous achievements it is still the message I am hearing; not: ‘A’ for the Art, well done for completing, wow your work’s printed. My ears are still ringing, I’m tense in my tummy, my muscles hold on, aspirations turn to perspirations. Why can’t I let a new message in? Try “You are no longer 5, today you are an adult. Self-criticism doesn’t help, try and take a small risk: Inhale slowly and dare start believing, make a new mantra ‘I AM good enough, doubt is normal’. If, like me you took on a negative message and still think:

What you tell yourself tells me confidence is lacking, Why not create a new message:

What good am I, my life lacks meaning BECOMES I am the Greatest, come here watch me achieving
It’s not fair, I can’t she’s great becomes or nothing is impossible
Life is so hard, no-one likes me, I get rejected becomes do my best, I will get accepted
I need praise, validation from people becomes I will define my own life, I am 100% capable
Don’t hand in my work, possible errors becomes it all has good value,

Do you need a new message to land to shift your inner-crit’s name calling from ‘worthless worm’ or ‘plain stupid’ to the reverse ‘I am amazing’, ‘I have great value in the eyes of the world’. Let me help you find what is blocking your positive self-esteem and create a new level of confidence.
Mary Mcilroy Counselling provides face to face counselling sessions in London & Online counselling sessions. Call Mary directly on 07769 218 281 or email mcilroy.mary@gmail.com

Considering therapy?

The majority of us build a set of coping mechanisms throughout our lives that can help us to face life’s challenges as they arise. Common coping methods include meditation, reaching out to some self-help literature or taking up a regular fitness regime. We also each have friends and family on whom we can count for love and support. Yet, with all these good intentions, it is difficult for friends to be unbiased or to tell us things they fear may hurt us. Nor are they able to understand all that they see and hear in us.

Psychotherapy is often referred to as 'talking treatment' as it is usually based on creating a regular time and space for an individual to talk about their problems, explore difficult feelings and work towards solutions with a trained professional. Other forms of counselling may include a variety of communication methods, such as writing, music or artwork.
If you are considering therapy, but are perhaps a little sceptical and thinking along the lines of ‘what can they tell me that I haven’t already thought of myself’? Or perhaps perceiving seeing a therapist as a cure for self-obsessed celebrities or others with too much time or money on their hands, take a minute to look at the following, proven benefits that therapy can bring to anyone’s life.

Bear in mind that while psychotherapy is often not a quick fix the gains here are deep and long lasting:

Research in the field has shown that verbalizing feelings and getting one’s worries out into the open has a significant therapeutic effect on the brain.
Psychotherapists have the ability to listen in a very different way to other people - Therefore counsellors are capable of hearing what others do not hear, even the speaker themselves. This means that a therapist can recognize shame where others hear aggression, fear where others hear anger. This invaluable ability can allow the speaker to get a completely new perspective, a different way of hearing and recognize his or her own feelings and emotions.
Therapy can also help one understand others, and this enhanced understanding has a positive influence on relationships with family, friends and co-workers.
Exploring one’s past and individual circumstances in a confidential set up helps people to feel less on their own and identify choices for change. This ongoing support, throughout the highly challenging path of change, helps a person to reach a state where he or she is better equipped to cope with the future.

About Me

Years ago, after studying in Dublin (where I'm from) I pulled up my roots and became a Londoner.

Now, as there is a proven need for online counselling, I’m happy to meet via Zoom or Skype. The matter of location is no longer an issue.

My education and training continued here in London (see qualifications listed below). The next step was volunteering for Victim Support and then counselling teenagers in inclusion units, which inspired me to begin my counselling training. I have since counselled clients with a wide variety of problems for nearly two decades. I have always been drawn to helping people and this brought me to work in counselling services, which provided me with a new sense of purpose in what I was doing.

I’ve always believed that we can get more out of life if we’re willing to change. And I know now that change is possible in the deepest sense you can imagine.

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Why See A Therapist

Although the issues that bring my patients into treatment are usually highly specific (a difficult transition in life, work stress, anxiety, etc.), I have noticed that when they improve in that one area, they often report an ability to solve problems and enjoy life more in other areas. How can that be?

After looking into the matter, I believe it reflects what is called neuroplasticity – the brain's amazing ability to literally rewire itself through a process of concerted thinking, learning, and acting.

This is the same process that shapes a child’s abilities in the first place. And that, I think, helps explain why warmth and caring on the part of a counsellor, much like that of a good parent, is essential for successful treatment. As one review of more than 500 studies on the effect of therapeutic empathy concluded, “the evidence is nothing short of amazing.”

I have over 20 years of experience working with clients in the following areas:

Anxiety, General Anxiety Disorder and Panic Attacks
Depression and Postnatal Depression
Stress and Tension
Low self-esteem and Confidence Issues
Absence of direction or meaning in life
Loss and Bereavement
Life Coaching, career support and Personal Development
Cancer
Anger management
Child related issues and parenting difficulties
Trauma and Crisis situations
Spirituality

I work part-time for a well known mental health charity where I counsel people with suicidal ideation and serious mental health difficulties.

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One final thought: as a counsellor I always enjoy seeing patients become energised and optimistic, especially when relationship issues are involved. We human beings are constructed to get most of our fulfilment from how well we relate to others, so if you’re having a difficult relationship in work or your private life, or if you’re scarcely having any relationships at all, give me a call. If you are suffering from anxiety attacks, stress, bereavement or a host of other issues, please do not hesitate, contact me. You were meant to do better.

I have studied Mindfulness Meditation which I practise daily, and often introduce in sessions to help ease anxiety, lift depression and resolve other difficulties.

So far I have achieved the following:

PGCE in Counselling, Psychosynthesis & Education Trust
Diploma in Person-Centred Counselling
Registered with the BACP (British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy) where I achieved an MBACP
BA in Business Studies
PGCE in Education
Certificate in CBT studies (Cognitive Behavioural Therapy)
Sexual dysfunction training (Spectrum Therapy centre)
Mindfulness teaching and Mindfulness Meditation
Ecopsychology training
Couple and relationship counselling

Questions

Here are some frequently asked questions that our clients ask,
If you don't find the answers you look for here please contact me.

Counsellors provide a service for those looking for support with a range of mental and emotional difficulties. It can tackle problems at the time of the crises as well as stress and anxieties regarding what may happen in the future. How you connect with the person you choose can impact on how successful the therapy or treatment is.

Only you can decide whether you wish to try counselling. Just talking to someone confidentially (not friend or family) can make a big difference. The therapist service provides a regular time for you to explore your feelings and concerns about the issues you're experiencing. I can help you develop better ways of coping, allowing you to set new goals, move forward and feel fulfilled as you reach for your potential in life.

The MBACP badge I have displayed tells you I have registered with the BACP, the British Association of Counsellors and Psychotherapists. By choosing a therapist accreddited with this professional body you can be certain that I have met the standards of training and experience required by that body. The BACP also holds a Code of Ethics for their therapists/counsellors that outlines the way their members should work, and a process to follow if things don’t work out as planned.

After a number of weeks of counselling has passed (usually 6) I like to review our work. Reviewing enables us to look back at how you were when you began the therapy sessions, compare the earlier situation with how things are further along and to decide what additional change needs to happen if any.

You get the best results from the counselling sessions if you can open up and be honest. Speaking to a stranger about your innermost thoughts can feel quite scary however, in order to work most effectively you need to take this risk and discuss innermost areas. Regular reviews also allow you to give feedback on your counselling relationship, on your work and on what might be missing.

You will connect with a professional, experienced, registered professional therapist in a private counselling session online. You can call, email or schedule a weekly session in the same way. However, online counselling is still a contradiction in terms for many as traditional methods had meeting a qualified therapist in person at its core.
Indeed, I had been working almost two decades as a face to face counsellor and I hesitated to change over to online believing technology could never offer a warm and personal environment. Research into online therapy proves there is no discernible difference between virtual and In person, online counselling proves to be equally effective for mental health problems.

What you are getting is a therapist or counsellor who is still experienced and just as qualified. Online counselling or therapy is simply different offering pros and cons: • One major advantage is time efficiency, therapy clients no longer have to travel to access the resource. Greater flexibility of session time also being possible. • Clients can feel more comfortable opening up to a stranger from home instead of talking to a therapist in person. • What is important is having a private space and a reliable internet. • I discovered the positives of zoom and am now a convert.

Online therapy or counselling is an area in which the influence of the Internet is growing rapidly but surely it is all about opening up to a person who sits back and understands, who uses their brain to read between the lines, and empathise, they help you link your feelings to their history and your intuition to a new perspective.
Can such links really be connected online via internet? Can what we expect from a human heart really be applied via technical hardware? Is online communication not all hard-wired, coded technology, can it really provide the cathartic, strategic healing we expect from counselling?
I was totally in favour of the traditional counselling method, I too downplayed the use of online counselling assuming only in person face to face counselling worked. Now I know otherwise. Research and experience has proven online therapist sessions can help mental, emotional and even spiritual matters: “Users have reported satisfaction with online counselling and the benefits of increasing access, flexibility on-time and on-demand therapy services”
Ref ‘Features & Benefits of Online Counselling’ D; Richards Trinity College 2008

As long as you are working with a registered counsellor you get the same results as when in person. Through online therapy it’s still possible to: • look people in the eye • focus on heart-felt matters • observe the whole person
while the person receiving counselling or therapy is able to: • be in one’s own environment • to make notes • Spend less time on travel • Sliding scales are available as costs are less • Scheduling is more flexible and convenient • Those with anxiety are better able to reach out.
Online counselling is not a replacement for face to face therapy but is here to stay and provides a great alternative. Why not consider having a trial counselling session online?

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